Connecting To My Inner Child
Tal has been in a process of trying to make a baby for about half a year. As the women around her get pregnant she is beginning to wonder what's with her? Why is she still not pregnant? Is she in some way, stuck?
With these questions in mind, I spread before her the Essence Of Life Dolphin cards and she eagerly picked one, in the hope of getting some inspiration. The first card to come out of the pack was CONNECTING TO MY INNER CHILD. I asked Tal what she could see in the picture.
"I see a mother and father and a child and light connecting to all three of them," said Tal. Hearing this, I felt reassured. The fact that there are six fishes in this card and Tal immediately saw a family, suggested to me that she is, deep down, seeing herself with a family.
But I also felt that this card is a tool for her to help achieve her aim of becoming pregnant. I asked her what does 'inner child,' mean to her? And in reply, she spoke about innocence, not thinking, just doing, and trust.
"So I guess I need to trust that a baby will come," she continued. "In these last days, I admit, I have been thinking too much about being pregnant and doubting myself. Even though my relationship with my husband is flowing, in my mind I am saying - I want a baby and I want it now. And life doesn't work like this, does it?"
Truth is, we never know how life works. We can plan for something and it doesn't happen and we can not plan for something and it happens. Trust - which children do so easily - implies getting away from the details - when? Where? How? - and focusing on a bigger picture. It's about carrying a feeling that what you want, you will get, even if you are not getting what you want, yet.
I suggested to Tal that she take the whole situation of becoming pregnant lightly, because her inner child is surely about being playful and like a real child - living in the moment. In fact too much seriousness around the matter could be blocking her from relaxing and becoming pregnant.
Sharing My Feelings With Others
Agreed, she decided to take another card and this time she picked SHARING MY FEELINGS WITH OTHERS. Here we see a dolphin wearing her heart on the outside, facing another and showing her true feelings. Tal feels like she is generally good at sharing her feelings with her husband, except she tends to suppress her frustration - like it's not 'cool' to be disappointed that she's still not pregnant.
So on the one hand, she feels the cards are saying that she needs to be more easy with the situation and on the other hand she needs to own her impatience and not be afraid to talk about her desire. Perhaps in sharing her feelings she may even help to bring on the pregnancy.
Remembering Life Is A Game
There was no avoiding or not understanding the message coming from the cards. As Tal picked another one, this time the theme of playfulness was quite clear, REMEMBERING LIFE IS A GAME.
"Wow! This really links to that first card about connecting to my inner child, " exclaimed Tal. I asked her what she could see in the card and for Tal, the ocean was an important image in this card. "I really love the sea. Water is about feelings too, so again, being with my feelings is probably important."
"Anything else you see in the card?" I asked.
"I think this card is saying - accept life's clouds,"
I disagreed. Remembering life is a game says to me don't take the clouds too seriously. After all the sun is always behind the clouds, which come and go, like our fears and woes.
Connecting To My Goal
Tal's final card she picked for her husband. It was CONNECTING TO MY GOAL. And she smiled when she saw this card because, as she revealed to me, sometimes she feels as much as she is too serious about making a baby, her husband can be too unfocused.
"I feel like he needs to be more connected to our goal," she admits and already I see that she is sharing her feelings. "Have you told him that?" I asked and Tal replied, "It wouldn't hurt for me to say it again. I agree with the card that says Life Is A Game, but I do think that my husband needs to be 100% in the game."
Tal looked uplifted. Like the cards had given her a mental massage; a profound message that she knew already but needed to be reminded. She finished by saying to me, "How many times in life do we want something so badly and it doesn't seem to be coming but when we let go and lighten up - what we want seems to fall into our lap effortlessly?"
And in that moment I realized that Tal's reading was apt for me too. Though I wasn't looking to get pregnant, the message of connecting to my goal and my child within, left me feeling that at work, in relationships - indeed in all areas of my life - I simply need to focus with a smile.
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