Creating Our Own Realities
Many Now Age thinkers believe that we summon into our lives everything that we experience. They go as far as to say that we can create any reality we choose, and whatever reality we are living in is created by us.
So why and how is it that we keep on creating a reality in which we do not manage to fulfill our desires? Why do so many of us feel that success is eluding us, whether in relationships, work, financial matters or even just kicking a bad habit?
If we are indeed free to create whatever reality we choose, there must be something inside us that is keeping us from creating a reality in which we feel that we are achieving our goals.
Some would say that this is the result of blockages that are found deep in our psyche, and that we are not aware of, because they merge with the background of our thoughts.
These blockages may be invisible to us, and we may wonder when did we begin to be blocked? Have we always been blocked?
In the Beginning
When we are born we have no expectations about the world - we receive stimulus and respond to it, but with little programmed reactions. Some say, In our earliest fragile days alot of who we are is determined.
We experiment with the world and learn from it: If I do this - this happens. When I see that, I know the other thing is coming.
As time goes by we gain experience and reach more and more conclusions about 'how life is.' Once these conclusions are accepted by us as valid, they form the basis for new conclusions creating ever more complex and refined versions of 'how the world is.'
As if to make things more difficult for us to unravel later on, all or almost all of the experiences that led to the construction of our view of the world are completely forgotten as we grow up.
In this way all we are left with are the end results of a mental process that evolved within us under circumstances that no longer exist, and which we carried out with the mental capacity of a baby.
It is quite certain that the same circumstances would lead us to different conclusions if they were processed by our adult minds, but the conclusions and the circumstances are long forgotten, and the resulting frame of mind merges with our basic view of the world without being revisited.
Beliefs That We Carry With Us
One of the most common deeply hidden beliefs is the one that says: "I am not worthy of Love." It seems that in the world today many people hold on religiously to this thought, without even being aware of it.
If you ask them they may even completely deny having this belief. Quite to the contrary, they will say, "I am very worthy of receiving love but somehow I never feel like I'm getting what I deserve."
Loving Our Children
Perhaps this is a result of the modern way of life and the limited ability of parents to give their children the nurturing and love they need. Parenting can be stressful, especially in the modern world, where we do not have the support systems that made parenting possible throughout human history.
Most parents are overwhelmed by the intensity of the experience of parenting. Add to that the regular stress of daily life in the modern world and the tense relationships that are commonplace, and it's no wonder that many parents feel like they are "losing their mind" from time to time.
Many times children who are not getting the love and tenderness they yearn for, seek empowerment within their world - to try find out how they are affecting what is happening to them. This leads them to 'take responsibility' for their condition - "there must be something about me, how I am or what I am doing that is causing me not to receive love," Kids can say to themselves.
At this stage already the child is making into a reality the thought that he is not worthy of being loved. This thought is purchased, accepted as reality, and more conclusions are then reached based on it.
Dealing With Limiting Beliefs
Other common limiting unconscious beliefs include "there are no free lunches," which translates as if I get one thing I am yearning for, it will be at the expense of something else, or - "I should not ask for what I really want, because if I do, there will be negative consequences, and I will never receive it anyway."
As adults, these acquired ideas have an immense effect on how we live our lives, though we have a hard time pointing our finger to them. They can be briefly glanced at through meditation, hypnosis, circular breathing or other techniques, and this can be very helpful in alleviating their firm grasp on us.
Just recognizing them for what they are, concepts, is enough for the realization to be arrived at that they are not some objective reality, and this can help us find our way to be free of them.
Once we free ourselves from limiting views of the world, we can see that not only are our goals easier to accomplish, but in many ways, these concepts did not allow us to appreciate whatever of our needs were indeed being satisfied - for example, we could not appreciate the love or abundance that we are receiving.
As we continue to unravel these closely guarded concepts that define our view of the world, we are peeling away the layers of our personality. Some sages say that in doing so, we are bound to find out, eventually, that our entire personality, who we think we are, is in the end also just a concept that we are holding onto.